“And good for you I suppose, I’m not just an Incel but also a virgin with 0 relationships.”
That sucks. To be honest casual sex isn’t that great (condom doesn’t feel super good, giving oral sex isn’t too pleasurable, risk of STD’s, nervousness with a new partner, premature ejaculation, abuse/using, etc). A relationship is nice but it’s also super difficult to get a real one and some of them are worse than no relationship at all. Just look at women who get beaten, raped, or stalked and guys who get fleeced financially.
The main reason I am thankful for having had sex and having been in a relationship is that I actually know what those things are like. Sex without a relationship isn’t super good. The one relationship I had was nice because it showed me what a relationship (which wasn’t about sex or money) actually was. Like we started with messaging on OkCupid, then calling, then me coming over to watch movies with her on my laptop, then to walks in the park, chess, cuddle hugs, kissing, etc. The furthest we got was her giving me oral after a makeout session because “I wanted to” as she said. It kinda went downhill after that and we never had intercourse but the oral was nice.
There was no exchange of money and the relationship really wasn’t about sex. It progressed gradually and naturally (at least compared to casual sex). I don’t know if I’ll ever have one again (I keep on having delusions of love with people who I don’t have a real relationship with). But yeah, it was nice because it showed me what a real relationship is like.